“You Are Pretty For A Big Girl”, Is Not A Compliment. What The Hell Is That About?!
Pretty woman blackWhen was the last time someone said to you: “You have a pretty face”, “You’re pretty for a Black lady”, or “You’re handsome for a big guy”? How many times has someone said this bullshit to you? Or, how many times have you said that bullshit to someone else? Before we go any further, those statements are very insulting. There’s so much to be said in regards to those fake ass “compliments”. Honestly, don’t know if I can say it all.
Why do you need to add a disclaimer to the compliment? When you do that, you negate everything you preceding the disclaimer. It is not longer a compliment it is now an insult. You think you’re being nice when you say that shit, but you’re not.
Here are a few of the fucked of compliemts that come to mind:
“She is a pretty dark-skinned girl” – Okay, are you shocked that someone with dark skin can be pretty? Or have you been taught that dark skin is ugly? Why can’t you just say she’s pretty.
“She has a very pretty face” – Are you saying the rest of her is fucked up? Why are you just pointing out her face?
“He’s handsome for a big guy” – Can a big guy be handsome or sexy without you saying the “big guy” remark?
“You look good for your age” – Does beauty have an expiration date?
There are so many more. To mention them all would take all damn day. Plus, it was just a thought I had.
Note: Pretty is pretty and handome is handsome so remove the damn disclaimers.
I fogot to ask, is someone calling you a BBW a compliment?